❇ The Spark

Just be positive!            Don't worry about it!                      Look on the bright side! How many times have you heard this (well-meaning) but ultimately useless advice? For years, especially when I was struggling with my own frustrations, I thought wellness meant successfully crushing negative feelings and replacing them with positive ones. I’d try to force positivity, which only made me feel worse... and inauthentic. Then I realize the  goal isn't to avoid a negative frame of reference. The goal is to understand it. The path to genuine wellness isn't suppression; it's precision .  It’s the difference between saying "I feel bad" and saying: I feel disappointed by that outcome. I feel anxious  about the deadline. I feel insecure  about my contribution. I feel frustrated  that I'm not being understood. These are all wildly different states, and "I feel bad" is a useles...